This blog is going to be something unusual – I’m asking for help and, to do so, you don’t have to go Kickstarter ONCE. Money won’t help me; I’ll be too incapacitated to spend it.
Quite a number of people have asked how they can help during this time (a surprising number, to be honest). To cut to the chase, for the people who live more than about 20 miles from us, sadly you probably can’t. Well, you can check this blog regularly and send me words of encouragement. That genuinely will help me. I likely won’t be texting anyone, will probably not be checking Facebook/Twitter much, and I’ll likely only be communicating with the masses here. So yes, out-of-towners can help by reading my blog and sending me words of encouragement.
However, those who are in the greater Reno/Sparks area (a term which makes me chuckle), if you want to help, do NOT wait for me or Ashley to call you up and ask directly for you to do something. I won’t be able to talk and Ashley will be too busy with other things. What you need to do is find out a day that you have some hours free, and call/text/email Ashley and say “hey, I got time free on the XXXth of XXXmonth. I’m going to pick up the boys and take them for a few hours. Does 4 work for you?” Or you can try “My oven is lonely, so I’m going to make two quiches. Can I drop them off tomorrow?” These are things that will help. Other things that Ashley will NOT reject are: offering to do dishes, offering to take the boys even for a couple of hours so she can nap, offering to sit with me and play GTA V because, really, I’m not going to be much fun so just having company who doesn’t expect me to talk might be nice (AFTER the first week). Offering to do dishes (again).
It’s going to suck, and I’ve come to terms with that. However, there’s little that can be done to ease my pain directly (unless conversing with you has the same effect as very strong prescription medication). So easing Ash’s workload will be paramount to everyone being happy in the end. No obligations, but if you want to help, send me a message and I’ll hook up up with the correct contact information.
In the meantime, keep your eyes right here and you might see some pictures that will make you say “awwwww, Derek looks all puffy!”