I’ve noticed (probably ‘Ash has noticed’ is more approriate) that I’m not exactly jumping up and down about the baby yet. I mean, I am excited, but you might not be able to tell that by looking at me. Or listening to me. Or having me around. She had me feel the baby kicking, and although I intellectually knew it was a baby, it felt like indigestion and I said “Cool”. That was apparently it.
In reading my books, this is abolutely normal. It’s even common. But that doesn’t exactly make me feel better. I want to just sit back and enjoy the baby but I’m too stressed about everything. Finances primarily, but other things too – how good a father will I be if I’ve only held a kid below the age of 5 twice, and they were both in the last 3 months? Why am I moving AGAIN (making the 7th move since 2001)? Should I have really decided NOW to throw a birthday party, become involved with a massive Novel-On-CD project, compile the baby shower registry, plan a weddingish, and book myself another trip back east?
To top that off, my back got thrown out of wack this past weekend, my feet and chest got super sunburned, and my face problems have been acting up more this week than I can ever recall.
But mostly, it’s how the hell are we going to pay for everything? It’s not as bad as it seems, I’m sure. We’re better off than most young parents I have ever heard of, not to mention the countless single parents who have worse jobs than me, if they have a job at all. And we still love each other, deeply. More than before. That’s pretty huge going into this.
But what bugs me out is to cope, I don’t go and play disc golf (it is 90 miles away, round trip), or go hiking (laziness I guess) or try to make new friends out here. I play video games or read books. Talk out retreating inwardly.
I try to assure Ash that she is kicking ass (and she really really is). I try to assure myself this is normal, because apparently it is. And possibly for the first time ever, I’m assuring all of you that I can whine on blogs too just like everyone else on Earth.